I find LJ friending behavior interesting and perhaps worthy of further study. :^P It's a pity that I didn't take up my professor's suggestion that I get my PhD in Social Psychology!
I re-friend people who share a reasonable number of my interests. This includes all Tolkien people since I figure that Tolkien people are on board to either read my stuff or discuss the books, and I want them to have access to the f-locked entries. I have had a few people who have friended me because (I believe) they see my name mentioned a lot on the LJ of one of my RL friends. In these instances, it seems pretty apparent to me that they're trying to bone up their friend-counts more than having any legitimate interest in me, and with one exception, such friendings rarely last long. I suppose that they catch wind pretty quickly of how boring and dorky I can be except to other boring, dorky people. :^P These people, I do not friend back. I figure that if they are truly interested, they will leave comments and we will become, well, friends!
These drive-by friendings are different. In the first instance, the person stated that if not re-friended within one hour, all of the drive-by friends would be removed. I was removed. We had nothing in common, and the LJ appeared to be a place solely for posting links and graphics, which does not interest me. An hour later, the same person friended me again. It was one of my story-posting days, most likely, and I often post my story then type in a real entry. Again, I was un-friended at the end of the hour.
I got drive-by friended again yesterday by a different person. This one didn't state that she would unfriend within an hour, but by the time I got from work yesterday, I was unfriended again. And once again, it was a journal for links and graphics and other stuff that really doesn't inspire creative thought or discussion, which is why I use LJ.
But it's funny reading the LJs a drive-by frienders because so many people take great offense at being friended by a stranger. "I DONT LIKE U AND IM BANNING U!!1!!one1!!" was common. I didn't see the reason for the hoopla. For one, someone listing you as a friend gives them no special privileges, yet friending is surrounded by this great mystique. Secondly, that these were drive-by frienders was pretty clear. Ignore and they'll be gone by the end of the hour.
I suppose people need a reason to get upset.
And I need to post about LJ friending behavior. All this has got me thinking....
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Date: 2006-11-01 12:46 am (UTC)I re-friend people who share a reasonable number of my interests. This includes all Tolkien people since I figure that Tolkien people are on board to either read my stuff or discuss the books, and I want them to have access to the f-locked entries. I have had a few people who have friended me because (I believe) they see my name mentioned a lot on the LJ of one of my RL friends. In these instances, it seems pretty apparent to me that they're trying to bone up their friend-counts more than having any legitimate interest in me, and with one exception, such friendings rarely last long. I suppose that they catch wind pretty quickly of how boring and dorky I can be except to other boring, dorky people. :^P These people, I do not friend back. I figure that if they are truly interested, they will leave comments and we will become, well, friends!
These drive-by friendings are different. In the first instance, the person stated that if not re-friended within one hour, all of the drive-by friends would be removed. I was removed. We had nothing in common, and the LJ appeared to be a place solely for posting links and graphics, which does not interest me. An hour later, the same person friended me again. It was one of my story-posting days, most likely, and I often post my story then type in a real entry. Again, I was un-friended at the end of the hour.
I got drive-by friended again yesterday by a different person. This one didn't state that she would unfriend within an hour, but by the time I got from work yesterday, I was unfriended again. And once again, it was a journal for links and graphics and other stuff that really doesn't inspire creative thought or discussion, which is why I use LJ.
But it's funny reading the LJs a drive-by frienders because so many people take great offense at being friended by a stranger. "I DONT LIKE U AND IM BANNING U!!1!!one1!!" was common. I didn't see the reason for the hoopla. For one, someone listing you as a friend gives them no special privileges, yet friending is surrounded by this great mystique. Secondly, that these were drive-by frienders was pretty clear. Ignore and they'll be gone by the end of the hour.
I suppose people need a reason to get upset.
And I need to post about LJ friending behavior. All this has got me thinking....