The plate wasn't expensive; it was free ... as in, it was a gift from my parents. :)
A few days before the potluck, I was with my parents, lamenting how I wanted to make two pies for my colleagues but had only one pan to use. Since they know how busy my weeks become, and how much I love sharing my ice cream with other people, they kindly gave me one of theirs to use.
And it's gone now.
In a way, that's more hurtful to me than if I had spent a lot of money on it. My mom mentioned reading about our flat tire on LJ the other day, so I knew she had seen about the pie plate too. And I didn't have the courage to tell her that it was her gift that got tossed because I was too foolish to trust that my coworkers would value my efforts as I value theirs. So maybe I am no better than them, in this. :)
But yes, it was a slap in the face that they had our secretary give the news to me because they know that I'm friendly with her and she's good at diffusing difficult situations. It would have hurt a lot less if someone who'd made the decision had come to my office, called, or emailed me to say, "I'm so sorry but we made a mistake and we regret it terribly. We didn't mean to be thoughtless or hurtful when we did what we did."
But no. No one could be bothered to do that. Which is perhaps just as thoughtless and hurtful as the original act.
Ai, the angst surrounding Dawn's cookery ... but thanks for the comment, the support, and the kind ear. :)
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Date: 2007-12-04 11:24 pm (UTC)A few days before the potluck, I was with my parents, lamenting how I wanted to make two pies for my colleagues but had only one pan to use. Since they know how busy my weeks become, and how much I love sharing my ice cream with other people, they kindly gave me one of theirs to use.
And it's gone now.
In a way, that's more hurtful to me than if I had spent a lot of money on it. My mom mentioned reading about our flat tire on LJ the other day, so I knew she had seen about the pie plate too. And I didn't have the courage to tell her that it was her gift that got tossed because I was too foolish to trust that my coworkers would value my efforts as I value theirs. So maybe I am no better than them, in this. :)
But yes, it was a slap in the face that they had our secretary give the news to me because they know that I'm friendly with her and she's good at diffusing difficult situations. It would have hurt a lot less if someone who'd made the decision had come to my office, called, or emailed me to say, "I'm so sorry but we made a mistake and we regret it terribly. We didn't mean to be thoughtless or hurtful when we did what we did."
But no. No one could be bothered to do that. Which is perhaps just as thoughtless and hurtful as the original act.
Ai, the angst surrounding Dawn's cookery ... but thanks for the comment, the support, and the kind ear. :)