It probably feels longer than four years because we're going on thirteen years of actually being together! Almost half of our lives now, Bobby and I have been in love. We kind of flout the notion that high school sweethearts never work out. ;) In fact, that we, in many ways, did grow up together is something that we think helps to make our relationship work. And our families--who spent many years making the half-hour trek between Kingsville and Dundalk so that we could see each other--are closer than most families as a result.
I told Feta above that I do believe that a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. ;) But when you end up with someone like Bobby or your husband, that is something special and should be celebrated. (Just as I don't put much stock in having a good "career" but do celebrate when someone finds life work that is fulfilling and meaningful for them.) I sometimes am awed of his support of me--like when I went back to school and he went above and beyond to help me make that happen--because the feminist in me that has been hurt by sexism sometimes still can't believe that I'm lucky enough to have found a husband like Bobby who defies every expectation I'd had about how men treat women. (And I mean that in a good way! :)
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Date: 2008-11-11 03:32 pm (UTC)It probably feels longer than four years because we're going on thirteen years of actually being together! Almost half of our lives now, Bobby and I have been in love. We kind of flout the notion that high school sweethearts never work out. ;) In fact, that we, in many ways, did grow up together is something that we think helps to make our relationship work. And our families--who spent many years making the half-hour trek between Kingsville and Dundalk so that we could see each other--are closer than most families as a result.
I told Feta above that I do believe that a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. ;) But when you end up with someone like Bobby or your husband, that is something special and should be celebrated. (Just as I don't put much stock in having a good "career" but do celebrate when someone finds life work that is fulfilling and meaningful for them.) I sometimes am awed of his support of me--like when I went back to school and he went above and beyond to help me make that happen--because the feminist in me that has been hurt by sexism sometimes still can't believe that I'm lucky enough to have found a husband like Bobby who defies every expectation I'd had about how men treat women. (And I mean that in a good way! :)