I have two children, by choice. I've always doubted my ability to deal with an abortion on an emotional level, so personally it would probably not be an option unless for medical reasons. However, one of my closest relatives had an abortion a few years ago (after contraception failure) and I went to the hospital with her, waited, gave her moral support when it was over. She has her boundaries, I have mine. I have no business pushing my emotional squeamishness onto her. Were it a moral issue for me, which it is not, I would have no right to force a religious based pro-life attitude on her either.
Anyone who says 'Have the baby, it will all work out afterwards' has never been fifteen, pregnant, terrified and with no emotional support system. I notice also that the people who say one should have the child at all costs, no matter how it was conceived or the mother's circumstances are not going out and adopting a baby every six months so that those unwanted children have decent homes. It's easy to judge from the safety of a cosseted comfort zone.
Final word. I loathe the attitude that 'all women should have babies, it's what they really want.' It's like saying 'all nine year old boys should have a bike, it's what they really want.' We're all different. Refusing to acknowledge those differences shows a mind-boggling lack of respect or empathy.
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Date: 2010-01-23 03:08 pm (UTC)Anyone who says 'Have the baby, it will all work out afterwards' has never been fifteen, pregnant, terrified and with no emotional support system. I notice also that the people who say one should have the child at all costs, no matter how it was conceived or the mother's circumstances are not going out and adopting a baby every six months so that those unwanted children have decent homes. It's easy to judge from the safety of a cosseted comfort zone.
Final word. I loathe the attitude that 'all women should have babies, it's what they really want.' It's like saying 'all nine year old boys should have a bike, it's what they really want.' We're all different. Refusing to acknowledge those differences shows a mind-boggling lack of respect or empathy.