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Bobby's great aunt, Aunt Lil, died on Tuesday at the age of 86. It was one of those long-time-coming and almost merciful deaths: She had been suffering from severe dementia for the past few years and had recently broken her hip. I've known Aunt Lil (and her husband Uncle Frank--he died back in '08) since Bobby and I started dating. Without children of their own, Bobby's family served as the children they never had. Aunt Lil was unfailingly generous--she was always slipping money to children and grandchildren--and had a certain my-way-or-the-highway attitude that was hilarious without being overbearing. In the later years of her independent life, she was known for crossing Merritt Boulevard--a busy divided highway near her home--by sticking out her hand and just going, no matter the traffic. If someone dared to honk at her, she gave them the finger. Only, to Aunt Lil, "the finger" wasn't the middle finger; she would jab her index finger repeatedly up and down in the air while scowling at whomever dared suggest that she wasn't Queen of the Road!

All of the women in that branch of the family tree are set in their ways and very outspoken about it. Now, with Aunt Lil gone, Bobby's grandmother is the only one left.

Aunt Lil once, upon leaving a family wedding, loudly declared, "Well, I thought it was a beautiful wedding. And anyone who doesn't like it can go float!" On another occasion--possibly the same wedding; this was before Bobby and I were together, so the stories have been passed down to me--she arrived in the midst of busy preparations, stood in the middle of the room (apparently wearing a huge black hat with a feather nodding against her nose), and shouted, "Everybody shut up! Shut up! Ludja has arrived!" (All of the sisters call themselves and each other by their Polish names ... well, "Polish" in the sense of the mutilated version of the language they speak. I don't actually know if Ludja is a Polish name, but Aunt Lil has been Aunt Ludja or Aunt Ludj to me for as long as I've known her.)

At the funeral home yesterday, Bobby's mom asked us if we had been up to see her yet, and I realized that I didn't need to (I never do; I don't like viewings) because I had so many memories and stories of her that meant much more than the physical manifestation of the woman she was.

Cut for Musings on Death, Religions, and Spirituality that Could Be Potentially Offensive )
Cut for Discussion of Religion )
Since I have a few newcomers to the ol' Bag of Weasels *waves* I think it's only fair to forewarn that I am a liberal agnostic, and my rare political posts reflect this. I welcome discussion on my posts but don't want folks who would rather avoid this sort of thing or might have had the mistaken impression that I am gun-totin' and church-goin' and have a yellow ribbon magnet turned sideways on the back of my SUV to be surprised by my rather very liberal leanings.

Not Dissuaded?? Clickety-click! )
I am crawling out of Green-Knight-induced lurkdom for a few minutes to point my fellow LJ citizens to the following links on [livejournal.com profile] dark_christian, a.k.a. the folks who helped bring you the Warriors for Innocence connection to LJ Strikethrough the First.

This first post discusses religiously motivated child abuse/neglect being promoted in communities on LiveJournal. Keep in mind, these are real children suffering and dying here, i.e. not might-be-fifteen-might-be-eighteen-but-certainly-fictional Harry Potter doing the naughty with certainly-fictional Professor Snape in a certainly-fictional drawing.

This second post discusses the response of LJ Abuse when the activities of these communities were called to their attention.

And ... this final post is furthermore interesting because of the connection made between "judgment calls" LJ Abuse is expected to make when investigating obscenity complaints versus situations involving illegal activity and abuse.

Some of the posts linked are pretty long, and it's also terribly easy to get sucked into the link labyrinth that is [livejournal.com profile] dark_christian (as I do on pretty much a daily basis upon coming home from work), so I don't blame those of you who don't want to read all that I've linked above but remain interested in the matter nonetheless. And the bottom line is pretty straightforward.

Communities that encourage religion-based childrearing practices that include starving and beating newborn babies, infants, and toddlers are acceptable. The practices that are being advocated have led to the deaths of real children, i.e. children who exist in flesh and bone, not just paper and pixels, as well as severe injury, anxiety, starvation, dehydration, and failure to thrive in children subjected to these practices.

But communities or journals that show fictional characters doing "obscene" things to other fictional characters are unacceptable.

Real kids ... fictional kids. Whom do we value more? Hmmm ...

And furthermore, it's interesting to consider that much of the Strikethrough hullabaloo on LJ has been spurred by Christian fundamentalist groups aiming to cleanse the Internet of what they feel is obscene "in the defense of children," even when no children are actually harmed.

But yet these child-abuse communities that are run by Christian fundamentalists and do lead to the harm of real children are okay.

The pie-eyed optimist in me says that LJ was simply blindsided during the recent Strikethrough/Boldthrough mess and are still disorganized about how things should be handled and made some mistakes, but all will be well in the end. The more discerning optimist in me thinks that it's all corporate/money-related. The pessimist/conspiracy theorist/radical/militant agnostic in me notes that two themes common to daily life in the One Nation under God are also present here: 1) sex is always worse than violence and is the true cause of all that is wrong in the world and 2) we can't possibly stand up against something that's Christian because this might insult their beliefs and we can't be doing that. (And for the record, I have no problem with Christians who practice their faith quietly and without constantly needing to bury their pointy elbows in my agnostic side. You can believe in whatever you want to believe in; I have some pretty wonky ideas too and appreciate my right to hold onto them within my own private sphere. I have a problem with fundamentalists who think that the United States is a Christian nation and that those of us who don't believe in what they believe in are "un-American" and deserving of punishment, loss of rights, and death because of it.)

Anyway. I have a novella to finish. I need badly to escape back to Fantasyland ... [livejournal.com profile] dark_christian is a great comm, highly enlightening (and highly recommended to those on my flist who are into such things), but it's also depressing as hell.

Back to lurkdom.
Perhaps because it is Monday and I am tired from shifting back to my normal nocturnal schedule over the weekend or maybe because I'm PMSing, things have just been getting on my nerves lately. Now I could grumble about my coworkers and their inability to use technology that's been prevalent since the '80s or the way that Maryland drivers drive when they perceive that there might be snow nearby ("like OMG it's piled all next to the road!") or any number of small things, but I'm choosing instead to write about some thoughts that have been on my mind lately about sports, religion, and escapism and how they intersect.

So, yes, I'm ranting. Hopefully not incoherently but ranting all the same. And since it does not always seem to be clear that my journal contains my opinions, then please be forewarned that my journal contains my opinions. You're welcome to disagree but please do try to be civil about it.

Best Served with a Can of Worms.... )

Unethical Me!

Feb. 25th, 2006 10:12 pm
dawn_felagund: Skeleton embracing young girl (Default)
I am doing something wholly unethical for money. And here I am, admitting it.

My boss has a friend--an ex-State trooper--who is taking a statistics class for his MBA. And struggling with it. So my boss got us hooked up--being as I know a thing or two about stats--so that I could help him along. So he came over today and brought a whole stack of work...due Tuesday.

While working on it, it evolved from Dawn tutoring into Dawn doing the problems into "Dawn, will you finish this for me and I'll pay you?"

And I said yes.

Bad 'gund! Bad bad 'gund! *hangs head in shame*

It's tax time, I admit. I could use the money. Bobby and I live a simple life with no children and lots of savings and that means that we owe money, despite the fact that my income puts me just above the poverty line (and Bobby's isn't anything stellar). This country punishes people who want to save by taxing their interest year after year...after taxing the income that put the savings there in the first place. We're saving for a home and a business--two supposed "American dreams"--and apparently that's not as acceptable as squeezing out a few kids and settling into a life of debt.

Anyway.

So the stats stuff is...well, going. It's been literally years since I did any of this stuff. My boss' eyes cross when I mention anything more than an average. (And he doesn't even know that there's more than one kind of average! I tried to explain this once, and his eyes crossed and his head spun....) Never mind the fact that I don't like the program I have to do it in, and one of the exercises apparently has a bug that prevents it from recognizing the correct null and alternate hypotheses even when I put them in correctly, meaning that it's impossible to complete the exercise. Of course, I wasted a half-hour figuring this out.

And while I'm on a roll, I might as well admit as well that I am becoming an intolerant person. My sister posted an LJ entry about the South Dakota abortion ban, and she got me thinking (as she has a tendency to do). I remember past conversations with my sister where we discussed whether we should be ashamed to be Americans and whether the current political climate is fostering intolerance (in us) for Christians. Not just the nutjobs...but all Christians.

Read at your own risk.... )
Bobby is a wonderful man. Have I said that lately? He knows that his poor, soft-hearted, easily upset wife gets depressed by reading the news too much, and so he sends me the articles that he knows will interest me. And probably get me all fired up and ranting from my soapbox. (While he laughs.)

It seems that a higher-up from the Catholic church has admitted that "intelligent design" has no place in science--least of all, in the science classroom.

I had trouble opening the article at first. Of course, that could just be my wonky State computer. Either way, here's the article, in case you want to read it but have a dinosaur like mine that doesn't want you too.

(God's hand at work? :-o)

Yahoo! News: Vatican Official Refutes Intelligent Design )

And of course, my thoughts on all this. (Cut for language...beware, virgin ears!)

And Felak Says.... )

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